LAUGH at YOURSELF, Joan Rivers said so.

Bursting the Bubble, Lifestyle/Personal

Anyone who has access to a T.V., a cell phone, or the Internet knows that last week Joan Rivers passed away at the age of 81. I’m not going to pretend that I was a huge fan of hers or that I idolized her. However, after watching a few memorial clips about her I’ve fallen for the way that she looks at life. She was a comedian; a hilarious, smart, powerful woman who wasn’t afraid to laugh at herself. I read the jokes she made about her husband committing suicide, the jokes she made about her excessive plastic surgery, and the jokes she made about her sex life. Although they made me laugh, I admire her comments on laughter itself most of all. She had the ability to laugh at herself, to speak her mind, and to question how society is run. She proved that laugher is the best medicine.

I watched a clip of her on Larry King where she said something along the lines of if you can laugh about it, everything will be okay. My biggest problem lately is taking everything personally, cutting myself up because of what I think other people think about me. Whether it’s an interview I didn’t get, or a look from a complete stranger, or telling people I’m unemployed instead of freelancing, it’s like I’m punishing myself. If you think about my situation the way people like Joan Rivers thinks about things, the fact that I have six years of post-secondary education and can’t even get an interview for a receptionist position not only comments on how much of a failure our school system is, but it’s kind of funny. Who do you have to blow know around this province to be taken seriously?! I know it’s not personal, even if I sometimes picture HR printing out my resume and covering it with a bright red LOSER stamp.

The only thing I can do is laugh about the interviews I don’t get, smile at the people who think I’ve wasted my entire life on following a dream, become a Joan Rivers kind of optimist (see quote below), work hard to create the life I want to live, and laugh at all of the mistakes I make along the way.


“I have become my own version of an optimist. If I can’t make it through one door, I’ll go through another door or I’ll make a door. Something terrific will come no matter how dark the present.”

– Joan Rivers

Talk Soon,

High Tea on 4/20

Fashion & Beauty, Just for Fun, Lifestyle/Personal, Restaurant Reviews, Toronto Adventures

Yesterday afternoon I went to High Tea at the King Edward Hotel with Steven. After hearing all the hoopla about High Tea, we decided that we had to check it out and what day would be more appropriate than 4/20?

When I arrived at Steven’s house, I was all: I’M SO EXCITED FOR TEA, LET’S GO!


Of course we were the first people in the dining room and even when ladies and gentlemen piled in, we were a little upset that no one was dressed like this…


Slowly but surely we got over the fact that there would be no Queens, duchesses, Princesses, or big hats to gawk at during tea time, so we got down to business. After choosing out teas (Earl Grey for myself and some Jasmine concoction for Steven) and the Ploughman’s High Tea the real fun began. And by that I mean we did the classicist thing possible: we took photos, we gossiped, we laughed louder than anyone in that room, we forgot to use the leaf strainer, I nearly broke my teapot, and we may or may not have let a few bad words out of the bag.

I’m still not quite sure I understand why High Tea is such a big thing but it was definitely a fun afternoon downtown. The King Edward Hotel is gorgeous, the atmosphere is regal and grand, and the tea itself is fantastic. I think anything can be worth your while if you’re doing it with the right people. It seems that I really needed tea time and a great chat with Steve. His advice is unparalleled, his wisdom uncompromised, and his fashion sense is simply inspired. Thanks for all of the laughs Steve! Next time we’ll grab brunch and head over to Ben McNally Books store.

Hope you had a wonderful Saturday!

Go out and enjoy the sun today.

Love Always

Vanessa Xo 

I just fell.

Just for Fun, Lifestyle/Personal

No really, I just fell off of the chair in my kitchen and I scared the crap out of my dog. He jumped and tried to run away but he slid all over the floor. He gave me a dirty look and walked away. Sitting there, with my boney bum on the floor, I couldn’t help but laugh and laugh some more. My laughter intensified and I did my famous so-ugly-it’s-kinda-cute snort.

Laughter is truly the best medicine.

Hope you have a Monday filled with laughter.

Love Always 
Vanessa Xo

Give what you get and get what you give.

Family Time, Just for Fun, Lifestyle/Personal

It goes both ways. You can’t expect people to go above and beyond for you if you’ve done nothing for them. You have to appreciate every gesture, every moment, every single time someone makes you laugh or smile.

A shared smile or laugh is the greatest moment you can have with a person. Seeing the corner of their mouth lift slightly, anticipating something clever or witty or downright stupid to come out of your mouth. Seeing their full smile and their pearly whites as the other corner of their mouth lifts into a full smile that nearly reaches their ears. Feeling a slap on your arm or the nudge you get once they finally break out into laugher, snorting, or gasping for breath. Seeing that tear of joy run down their cheek – it’s contagious. Before you know if you’re laughing too. You’ve just shared a wonderful moment, you’ve just made their day, maybe.

To all of the wonderful people in my life:

I’ll  try to do more for you. I’ll do my best to help out, to make an effort, and to participate in your life as fully as I can. Even if a laugh is all I have left to give, I’ll give it to you.

Love Always
Vanessa Xo