Job hunting, failing, and all things necessary

Bursting the Bubble, Just for Fun, Lifestyle/Personal


I’m currently reading #GIRL BOSS by Sophia Amoruso, filled with witty anecdotes, great advice, and life stories, Sophia’s book is just what I need. I’m job hunting again, ya’ll know this, but this time there’s a hint of desperation in my voice, in my cover letters. It’s getting overwhelming.

The other day I was listening to the radio and  heard the hosts talking about college and university. How parents and young people go to school, take Liberal Arts programs, finish school and struggle to find a job. Not only that but they spend FOUR LONG YEARS gaining ‘skills’ that are useless in the workforce. They come out of school thinking that they will be hired for being awesome, that they’ll make great money, love their jobs, and get to spend lavishly. I am was one of those people. The truth is that that doesn’t happen and if you’re taking a Liberal Arts program you have to remember that you might not land the job of your dreams, you might end up doing something a little less glamorous but that’s life. You have to work and work hard until you get somewhere you’re happy with. It’s all about gaining experience, crawling before you walk, and walking before you run.

Please don’t get me wrong I am ALL for dreams. I have big dreams and even greater hopes for my future. I always thought I would be something awesome, working hard in the city, wearing heels to work, living and breathing my job, being recognized for what I do because I’m awesome at it. The problem is that I could never picture the “it”. Yes, I want to write and be known for it. I would also love to work in publishing, spend my days surrounded by books, but I don’t know what exactly I want to do in publishing. I’m not complaining that nothing awesome has happened to me. I’m confident that one day it will. I truly believe that if you find something you love you should find a way to get paid for doing it, you just have to understand that it doesn’t come easy. Nothing ever does and it’s okay to not have it all figured out.

I am in awe of women who seemingly have their shit together. Women that are doing what they love, kicking ass and rocking the world. Valerie from Charming Media, the ladies of TSOQ, my editor at Chic Darling, and the loveable Casie Stewart are women (close to home) that inspire me. What I forget to remember is that they didn’t just land where they are now by sitting around doing nothing and for a time I am certain that they were all a little lost and confused about where they wanted to go in life. BUT they made it, they persevered and they are doing what they love. They gained EXPERIENCE and that is what I must do now.  Maybe if I focus a little less on where I want to end up and focus more on trying new things, something truly wonderful will fall into place.


Your challenge as a #GIRLBOSS is to dive headfirst into things without being too attached to the results. When your goal is to gain experience, perspective, and knowledge, failure is no longer a possibility. Failure is your intention.


– Vanessa Xo

Quote from page 138 of #GIRLBOSS

I heart bookish events @HarperCollinsCa

Book Reviews, Just for Fun, Toronto Adventures

Is there anything more magical than congregating with others that share my insane obsession for the written word and faraway worlds? I think not. So when I received an invitation to CELEBRATE THE HOLIDAY’S with HARPERCOLLINS, I rsvp’d with a heck yes!  You can read my full recap of the event on Chic Darling but I wanted to share some extra photos from the event, since it was insanely lovely.

The best part of the night was spending it with my best friend. It was her first book event and I am so thrilled that she loved it too. It was great to have her there, she made me feel at ease when trying to network, something that I’m not always good at. I do enjoy meeting new people (like Rachel from, chatting about their careers and my own, as well as, our dreams and aspirations. I always find these chats inspirational and motivating — if she can do that, than I can do it too! My best friend is highly motivating, she’s always asking me what I want, what my passions are, and where I see myself. She’s always pushing me to try new things, to get out of my own way, and to get over the senseless rut I’m in.


Talk soon,

Vanessa Xo

Twitter for the WIN — a #SparkSessions Recap from someone who didn’t attend

Fashion & Beauty, Just for Fun, Products and Brands, Toronto Adventures

It’s nearly impossible to recap an event that you didn’t attend. Nearly impossible, unless you follow the event’s hashtags all weekend (even when you’re relaxing at the Mohawk Inn & Conference Centre in Campellville Ontario). I’m not a Beauty or Fashion blogger, even though some of my posts tend to lean that way. I’m a Lifestyle blogger who loves to write and even though Spark Sessions is geared towards Beauty and Fashion bloggers, I think any type of blogger could gain something from their event.  With the amazing panels, various brands, and numerous bloggers in attendance, I’m quite sad I missed it. I’ve heard nothing but great things about it and am so glad I had Twitter to help me learn a few things from some of the greats!

Here are my favourite quotes/tweets from the event, search #sparksessions on Twitter to view more.

Anum Khan ‏@summerxskin
Kamilla Berdin ‏@KamillaBerdin#sparksessions
  • “Blogging is not a set it and forget it business” @DaintyGirl_TO
Stephanie Fusco ‏@stephaniefusco
  • Bloggers: be honest. If you didn’t love something, say so or don’t say anything at all. Free for you, $150 for someone else. #sparksessions
Chic Darling ‏@ChicDarling
Spark Sessions ‏@SparkSessions
  • Blogging is a career that comes out of passion. It is never a choice you make for financial gain. @LaineyGossip #sparksessions
  • Even if you’re not a journalist, editors work with you to become better writers as long as you are eager and willing #sparksessions
  • Be honest. Don’t over-inflate your writing experience. #sparksessions
  • Bloggers should check which posts get most traffic and have the lowest bounce rate for each style or type of blogpost #sparksessions
  • Just because you’re not a perfect writer now doesn’t mean you can’t work your way to be there. #sparksessions

Did you attend Spark Sessions? Tell me all about it!!


Talk soon,

Vanessa Xo


Darling, you’re très Chic

Lifestyle/Personal, Toronto Adventures, Uncategorized

I’d like to draw your attention to a few NEW things on My Pen, My Voice.;* Firstly take a look at my new “selfie”…


My wonderfully talented and creative cousin, Ashley, drew this for me. She’s the one who is always giving me thoughtful gifts and touching cards. She not only believes in me, she supports me, and she inspires me to keep going. She’s one of my best friends and I wish nothing but great things for her! THANKS ASH!

Secondly, you’ll notice a few new tabs above. Check them out!

Chic Darling is a lovely website that has taken me on as a contributing Writer (Writer deserves a capital W)! Woooohooo! I will be contributing some Lifestyle posts, Book Reviews, and perhaps some Music or Film Reviews! I’m looking forward to it! I’ll be sure to post links in the new tab!


My first post will hopefully give you some Valentine’s Day ideas and my second post will be a recap of an event at Minling Pan Studio! As for My Pen, My Voice — look forward to a new Buytopia deal that I get to try out tomorrow, a review of The Wizard of Oz and the Pantages Hotel, a review of Proof of Guilt by Charles Todd, my usual endless yapping, AND a bookish contest coming to YOU from myself and Random House Canada at end of January, beginning of February!

Lots to look forward to over here!

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Love Always

Vanessa Xo