The Rise of Self-Love

Bursting the Bubble, Lifestyle/Personal, Products and Brands


I received a press-release recently about Triumph’s Beauty-Full collection. I don’t purchase underwear or lingerie all that often, so this press release fell short for me in actually purchasing anything from Triumph. What didn’t get lost on me was the fact that sometime in the last year or so, the definition of beauty has changed from being thin to being in love with your skin.

I love how little I hear about wanting to be skinny, about losing weight. I love that it’s more about being healthy and eating the right food. I love that there are women out there like the owners of The Store On Queen who emulate health, confidence, and beauty regardless of weight or size. I love that celebrities like Kelly Clarkson, Demi Lovato, Pink, Selena Gomez, Lady Gaga, and Lena Dunham are dismissing body-shamers and spreading love, light, and self-worth.

I love that my generation and the younger generation (from what my narrow little brown eyes have seen) have snubbed the notion that being thin is equivalent to being beautiful. I love going to the mall and seeing young women of all shapes and sizes trying on clothes and walking around with their heads held high. I know that there are tonnes of wicked and sad things going on in the world, but I also know that good things will only happen if we build ourselves up rather than cut ourselves down.

“To lose confidence in one’s body is to lose confidence in oneself.”  ― Simone de Beauvoir

Love Always,

Vanessa Xo

*Photo from: Lotus Leaf*

Women, Self-Esteem, and Dove

Just for Fun, Lifestyle/Personal, Toronto Adventures

Yesterday I attended Dove’s Women Who Should be Famous event.

I went with the lovely Lina Franci, thanks to an invite from Amanda DiPasquale (Not A Model Blog) and finally got to meet her! It was a great event for young women to be exposed to different kinds of role models and women who should be famous. From mountain climber and scientist Arlene Blum to musical ambassador, educator, and artist Toni Blackman – it was amazing to see how far determined women can really go.

Although it would have been nice to hear from Mandy Moore herself, about her self-esteem issues or how she got to where she is today, I’m glad most of the focus was on the four women who would make great role models for any young girl out there. I found it interesting that body image was almost a secondary topic, since I still struggle with feeling comfortable in my own body but maybe it’s better that the focus was on achieving your goals rather than body image. I also think that an event like this would be much more effective if it were done in grade 8 and grade 9 classes as some kind of a workshop for women, but I’m still thankful that I got something out of it.

My favourite line of the event came from Toni Blackman – although I’m paraphrasing a little, it went something like this,

“Your dreams will be with you your entire life. You can either look at them, chase them, or live them.”

Truthfully, I find that everyday I am chasing my dreams, working hard to make them a reality, working hard so that one day I can LIVE them. This event made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, as well as determined and confident – I can do anything and so can you.

Love Always
Vanessa Xo


P.s. In hopes to do some personal marketing, I wonder if you’d like to check out my book –  My Pen, My Voice. I published most of my diary (filled with poetry and prose) from ages 12-21 in hopes that I could help young women feel better about themselves. I struggled and still struggle with body image and self-esteem, so I write about it. I hope you can pass it on to a young lady in your life who needs someone to relate to.